Do you let your body hang-ups affect your life? Do you look in the mirror daily and hate what you see? Do you self-criticize your appearance, shape, and size? Well, you’re not alone. Many people, including men suffer from a negative body image. We are constantly told to empower and embrace our body flaws. Are these so-called flaws really flaws to begin with?
We come in all shapes and sizes. Some of us are shorter than others, we have wrinkles, grey hair, thinning hair, cellulite, small breasts, big breasts, big hips, big bones, and I could go on with the list, but the point that I’m trying to make is, aren’t these flaws just part of who we are? Getting wrinkles is just part of the aging process. Some of us are born with different body types which causes us to have larger bones or distribute our body fat differently. Some of us are genetically taller, shorter, or thinner than others. These aren’t flaws but rather our bodies at our best, in their natural state.
I often hear women want to change their flaws and spend their entire lives thinking covering up the things that make them who they are. I listen often to women who want to change their weight, change the size of their arms, decrease the fat around their waste, hips, butts, thighs, and so on. In fact, I could spend an entire training session listening to women struggling with trying to change their body image while trying to embrace it at the same time. They forget why they are with me in the first place, which is to become healthier. There is no harm in wanting to change your weight, decrease your body levels, or sculpt your body. These are just ways of making your body healthier and we should all take care of our bodies through exercise, eating healthy, and adapting a positive mindset.
Our happiness is not dependent upon our size, weight, strength, or size of muscles. There might be a moment of happiness experienced when reaching a target weight or decreasing our body fat levels but that moment disappears quickly. I have crooked toes. I was born with them. For years, I would never wear sandals as I didn’t want to expose them to others worrying about judgement. Today, I could care less. I put them out there for everyone to see. It’s not a flaw in my mind. What I do care about is that I’m healthy. I’m active every day, I eat as many whole foods as I can, I meditate daily, and I keep my stress levels in check. I don’t even think about my body parts. I can’t change many things about my body and I actually don’t want to if I could. They are part of me. It’s what makes me whole.
The same goes for our body image. Our weight doesn’t define us. The cellulite on our thighs is just fat, and the size of our breasts or hips, is just a body part. We need to stop trying to fix something that doesn’t need to be fixed in the first place. Don’t embrace something that doesn’t need to be embraced. Your body is your own and unique.
Love your body and every part equally!
Eat Clean & Live Green!
Your Compassionate Coach,